my maama

My mums birthday is coming, she's gettin a tad older. Lol,which reminds me of when she celebrated ha 50birthday. She pulled out all stops n spared no expense. . .Now dt is smthn i am definitely looking forward to when its my turn :-) *my husband should pls take note*
Anyways,so another july forth is coming,did i mention its d same day as us independence,and we're supposed to show how much we love n appreciate her. Myself n my sisters,with little help from my brothers try to figure how best to show our mum that we're ''good'' kids. Lol
At the moment,production is still on. Although i feel plannin only a few ideas will have less of the desired effect.

'give it up for the woman'

There's the saying about how women should feel empowered and be independent in their own ryt and I totally agree wt dt... We,women should be independent,we should be able to fend for ourselves. Buh at d same time I can voucher that eery woman won't mind living off a male's work while she would still expect to be treated as miss independent.

Take for instance,an average nigerian wife who is holding up a job of her own and has a husband who has an amazing job dt brings in most of the revenue. When it comes down to it,said woman would naturally relish taking the husband's new ryd to work jst to show off a bit to her co-workers. Said woman would on the average want to spend less for d family cs she thinks to herself 'he makes more than I do so he should be able to foot more than half of the bills...afterall,he is the man of the house'. And it is this mentality dt creates a whole lot of wahala for use women... We say we wanna be independent,yet we bring trouble on ourselves.

A lady who enjoys a guy buying her flowers,taking her to dinner,showering her with wonderful gifts also expects her man to take out the trash,check to see if a burglar's broken into d apartment if she hears a noise downstairs,take care of d cars,mowing the lawn. . .yhu get the drift...

Such a woman should nt be disappointed when the man expects her to clean for him,wash his dirt,cook for him,please him and generally make him happy. She has not right to say she's empowered and independent because she should be able to take what she is dishing out.

Something I have realized is that whyl it may take a long time for men to mature into their own and make smthn ryt for them, it takes women a shorter time and its like all females go through phases...we all want one thing and also want everything.

Once men get some things once, it sticks wt em buh wt women... We set too much principles around ourselves and we usually over assume wt we want and wn it doesn't happen, we gt saucy and defensive

Don't get me wrong, am not sayin the men folk are the smartest...truth be told,some of em really are goof balls and low-lives buh d point is,

An independent woman is not totally independent until she makes herself believe that she can survive without the opposite sex!

Ve a good day
xoxx
signed: t33n trYiN tO taK3 on her WorLd

''tHe OuTHer CirCl3''

How we are seen by other people is way different from the way we see ourselves. Take for instance,two people to u make make absolute no sense buh to each other...those two can never be separated as friends.

I was watching an episode of House the other day and it was about d diagnosis of a woman who is so up to date on ha blog as in ha whole life is on it...much to d annoyance of ha boyfriend. As I was watching d episode,i found myself being vexed on behalf of d guy cs evn wn d doctors told ha she was dying n needed a heart valve which cud either be pig or plastic,she decided to turn to ha blog! Imagine how vexed I was. Buh I noticed d guy was only mad for a bit because he already accepted her as who she was. Eventually,the babe was saved,she and ha partner still loved each oda,she stil posted it on ha blog and she went for d pig valve.lol..

My point is while I was almost angry that she would tell every single detail about her life on a blog rather than tell her partner, and me being annoyed at d partner for not making ha stop her bad habit, I realize that my opinion is just by the side. The boyfriend has accepted her,hook line and baggage and still loves her for it,no matter her choice in revealing their domestic turmoils.

We only find console in the fact that we love and we are loved in return. People may not accept how we handle our relationships wt our family,our friends our neighbours and so on buh one thing we'll realise is that whatever their opinion is, its in d outer circle. . .
Goodnyt. Mwaaahs

More babbling...#2

Had a couple of rough weeks and I wasn't able to blog...it wasn't so pretty...here's a lil of wt I was thinkin...

@13 april 2010
As I sit down to study,i wonder if this is all my life really is all about. As I try to fight sleep, I wonder if being a student is all dt its cracked up to b and I realise, its far much more than I can see.
I hurt a friend of mine today and I am deeply sorry about it buh I couldn't bring my mouth to tell ha wt she wanted to hear or wt did not seem ryt. I cannot lie to those I care about.
My conscience cannot take a lot of evil n wicked intentions. Buh I wonder,with all d drama and politics going on in this school,i find my self lost @ times... Time to head back to d books.

@15 april 2010
Why would this happen...after I had high hopes...why is this man trying to make me hate him after am tryin so hard not to.what did I do wrong in d midsemester dt I ve to score dt low.just after lamenting the grade I got in my last semester...wt hope am I supposed to ve for gttn an a in this course now... Its not fair!!and its nt as if am not tryin my best. I hate this...why is this whole tin tormenting me this way... I feel tears on d brim of my eyes and I feel like letting the tears flow...i noe I don't deserve this buh I will move on. Better to noe my mistakes now than in d exam hall...should ve known today won't be such a good day...I just wanna block out d world :-( :-( no one can help me... *sobbing inside*


Today @20 april 2010
The first was bout me gttn ready for d exams and tryin to get my study on and d second was bout me seeing one of my mid semester...i just noe dt d lecturer has done me a rili big strong tin

Anyways,am over all dt now...now chilling wt my babe and tryin to focus on d things ahead

xoxo... #teenager tryin to take over on d move. Lol

P33r pRes5u're

Ok,so I should start taking this blog things more seriously ryt?????? Anyways,bin a min...as usual so much has been happening buh really,whose life is as smooth as a baby's bum....yeah ryt
Am still tryin to be dt kid hu wants to be a major world market player and tryin to take over my world buh I always seem to get sidetracked. If its not friends,its books,if its not books,its family and d circle keeps on turning..
Sometimes I tire myself wt d effort I put up to make sure d superficial physical aspect of my life is still rockin...yh,i noe:peer pressure
I think to myself dt while I do not totally succumb to peer pressure,a lot of it still gets to me.i could bet a million dollars if I had em dt as u reading this,some oda babe is having my same line of thought and dt gives me comfort...
So I noe am still a rocking teenager tryin to take over my world... I still got time!!!

Me n my babbles: its easter

Ok,so I wrote this a while back buh guess ve been too busy to come put it up ere...my easter was sooo boring
I noe its d season my savior died and all dt buh this year things felt different...b4 I jump d gun,here's wt I been on so far

I noe its been a while since I wrote smthn..dnt mean I dint missed writing buh as my usual sayin goes,there's neva enough time. And lawd knows so much has happened in d past few days dt I wonder if my life is some kind of script n am d leading lady
I wanna stop nagging cs a second ago I was gonna write...skl is such a bore!!buh lets skip dt...
This weekend finally am outta skl!!i am sooo happy I left cs d chokehold in skl was gttn under my skin plus I think I just needed a break in my thoughts circulating over the same old things
Thankfully I can do dt @ home...staying @ home and conducting one of my favorite past times has made me realise dt I have actually changed!
To say whether the change is good or bad...dt I cannot be sure of buh I noe dt I can't change d past buh I sure as I can make do wt my present and my future.